It's been a busy time at home between the little one who is adorably awesome and also trying to finalize everything for the upcoming wedding; more specifically some commentary from my immediate family (mother, sister, and even father) have merit and have had me thinking some...the concerns they're bringing up are not necessarily (at least in my mind) deal
breakers but I feel it in my gut that their comments are warranted and I'm going to have to evaluate as the date gets closer. Meanwhile, I've
bought most if not a good majority of the items - I'm budgeting and making cost cuts where I can but
still keeping it tasteful and the way I had envisioned my wedding to be. Yes,
I said "I" not "we"...
Let's be honest, weddings are more about the Bride or at least about what the
Bride envisions overall for the wedding. The soon to be Groom either just
complies or you're the lucky few with the more vocal and participating men who put their
input and want to be more involved in the wedding preparations. In the case of my ex-husband (well back then soon to be husband) my "hubby" was already previously engaged as well as having already lived with at least two women before me (different times and different duration of relationship/s), and when I
continually (as well as repetitively) asked what type of wedding he wanted; we
settled on a classy rustic wedding. He chose the colors (because trust me I DO
NOT like turquoise) and we compromised on the style/type of wedding so it
should even out towards the end. The ceremony aspect has been taken care of
already-the only unfortunate aspect is, they are still doing the touch up
remodel of the Cathedral in Dallas around the altar area. It doesn't look like it will be complete in time for that area to be completed by the date of our wedding. The only person
who's making a big deal about it is my sister; granted I understand her
reasoning behind it since I've had a "wedding book" done and I've imagined being married since I was in junior high. The wedding book I have contained ideas and times of how I wanted my
wedding to the love of my life to be. So, my sister, in all the goodness of her
heart was wanting everything to be perfect for her little sister.
Anyway, I was able to find and evaluate what I truly needed for decorations,
where to cut costs, what I had to let go of (meaning what I knew I wasn't going
to be able to get but had always wanted in the wedding); an example of this
would be the sign in book and area. Instead of the beautifully designed and
engraved sign in book I had envisioned (and found) and the sign in area to be a
little elaborate with a past portraits timeline of him and me leading to the
actual sign in book.
Well for only a quarter of the cost of all that, I bought frames for images of the past couples in our family history that have lasted as a nice little display area to encourage and strengthen our wedding day, then we bought a beautiful window style mirror that has beautiful wooden doors. I personally decorated it and we will be using that as a "sign-in"; everyone can use one of the colorful sharpies to leave a message on the mirror and we can hang it on our wall in our new home. We got things prepared in a smaller sized venue room because our guest list has slowly continued to diminish. Our original count was a lot higher number, but the wedding party shrunk; his original best man was his best friend who is Philippino but that faltered and my bridesmaids also shrunk by two. Then there were guests who I contacted prior to invitations being sent out and that diminished the seating chart arrangement. I won't be having an actual floral bouquet as I walk down the aisle and there isn't going to be any decorations in the church...I'm trying to conserve whatever cost I can spend towards florals for the reception, as my sister be assisting with that setup.
Overall I'm kind of proud of myself because I've done all of the planning, arranging, scheduling, personal touches on decorations and arts/crafts for the wedding stuff. My goal is just to have my sister put everything together meaning to arrange everything with her wedding planning vision for everything. I’ve got and am going to finish up prior to the wedding. Besides I’m hoping that since his family will be here a day before that since they mentioned they would offer help, I’m going to use all hands-on deck especially since I have my daughter now :)
Sincerely,
A Distinct Woman
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