I look at the world around me and while shaking my head I wonder "what the hell happened to the good ole days?" When things seemed so much easier or at least more respectfully contained. Where a persons word meant something, the dealings of a handshake held firm and sometimes didn't require a legal document, the hardwork of a person was valued, the talents of an individual was actually compensated for, and the cost of what you wanted was manageable not ridiculously over priced to leave you for wanting...
I know the digital age is progressing and most definitely evolving however coming from someone who has seen it's progression as I was a part of the generation that continued to contribute and be witness to its fruitful growth - something both helpful yet also dangerous with how the world is going. Don't get me wrong, I do believe there is a need for certain things digital however, I miss what was once (well what I believe) to be a more peaceful time because there was no digital requirements/a need. By the way, the image below is just one I found after googling, "handshake image" so definitely NOT MY image.
I grew up in the late 80s but where the understanding and the appreciation for what was the 80s was still taught and applicable to me, well at least I took it in whole heartedly whereas others my age maybe not so much. Anyway! I remember seeing when men made dealings with handshakes and where a mans (or womans) word meant something. It was a universally understood gesture and sign of a person who was and did follow through without concern. Shoot I don't think that when a person even says "I give you my word" it means anything to anyone anymore, unless their literally old or were educated in their homes during the era's of this understanding. Handshakes and the manner in which you complete a handshake still carries importance-how someone shakes your hand, the strength and demeanor behind the handshake can be interpreted and concluded to mean something specifically. Perhaps it's not just how the handshake was but more importantly it's also about the manner in which you also give your word to someone. Once upon a time in certain businesses or transactions, signed contracts were basically used to reinforce the handshake or the verbal agreement...
Simply put now a days there's either minimal or close to none, regarding the sincerity of when someone says "I promise" or "I give you my word"...there's almost always a question of "ok what's your motive" or "are you trying to pull one over on me" because of course the newer age just doesn't fathom or live in this manner anymore...hmm maybe I'm wrong. All I know is that as a mom, this is something I'm wanting to instill in the education and upbringing of my children. That they understand what they say is valid and important because its a reflection of also their character when they've made a decision and have told someone "yes I will do this" or "I will make sure to do this". The understanding of accountability before adulthood so that they bring integrity to their word of mouth.
Are you a person of your word? Can someone look at you and just know that they would never have to question when you've given your word on something?
Sincerely,
A Distinct Woman
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