(Originally written June of 2017-Didn't revise or edit to maintain the authenticity of when it was originally written.)
"When joy and prayer are married, their first-born child is gratitude."
Almost everyone I know (both family and friends) are now made aware about my pregnancy and it was funny at the start, listening to the stories of those who had gone through pregnancies and births (regardless of whether I wanted to hear it or not), explaining everything they had gone through. From some of them, I really did want to hear, but a good majority-I really didn't and had never asked to hear about their pregnancies…it became obnoxious (or maybe it was just my pregnancy hormones kicking in) and a little bit of a nuisance (especially on me under the weather feeling pregnancy days.) Those specific moments are when my mother's education of teaching me to respect others chimed into my head; since I am a representation of my parents, I get my mouth shut at those moments. However, if anyone reading this now, might just think otherwise or think something along the lines of, "spoiled rotten new age child' or "rude young female that doesn't have decorum." I've heard it before, so it doesn't offend me if that's what you're thinking, I'm just stating how it was and how I feel. Anyway, moving on!
What I have noticed recently is that many of these women who converse about their pregnancy stories tend to also divulge their reasons behind a specific type of upbringing and lifestyle, or it's almost like they try to justify WHY they raised their children the way they did, regardless of: being spoiled, uneducated, rude, or joyous and active. What I also took notice of recently was the number of females within my circles (not wanting to use the term "friends" as that implies a close relationship) who were pregnant and also going to be first time mothers. Many were doing the "studying" and "reading" bit - the irony of it. Me the person who loves to read and know all the information about something to not only be informed but excel at whatever I'm reading about, decided to NOT divulge myself into the new mommy scare syndrome that tends to take place I think for all first-time moms. I was not going to waste time or money on finding these ridiculous books about first time pregnancy or what to expect. Why do I even mention this? Well, it refers back to the beginning statement of this paragraph. I had women around me if I so wished for valuable information, on top of the doctor's office. I mean what's the point for paying dues on my health insurance when I spend more money on books, that realistically I probably won't have time to read since I'm working full time and can easily use the OBYGN's office for questions that I think, or feel are out of the norm. Maybe just my realistic side but serious readers tend to take the heart what they read, hence me being a serious reader, I'll probably panic about every little thing that happens based off of what I read. The less I read about something the better off I am-at least until the moment arises to inform myself; for example, the genetic tests and blood work the doctor's office does on me. I would rather read about those items and their effects than worry about "you'll lose even more control of your bladder during the second trimester but shall breeze through morning sickness". Every doctor state, "general symptoms" or "these are generally the things to expect in your pregnancy" then always informs you, "but every woman is different, and every pregnancy is never the same." So why in my right mind am I going to spend anywhere from $8 to $40 on a book about something that varies between woman to woman. Shoot that's my food money or ice cream money during this pregnancy!
I don't know, I guess in my mind if something's really wrong regardless of my new "mother spidery senses" you as a woman will "feel" when something is wrong…if I feel something is wrong, I have my mother to bug and worst-case scenario a wonderful friend who a prenatal nurse on speed dial is! I just hope she stays a friend after this pregnancy-Lord knows the emotional/hormonal side is out!
Sincerely,
A Distinct Woman
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