How would you categorize yourself as? Are you an emotional person or a sentimental person? Or quite possibly both? I find that today, many are more one then the other BUT there are the few breeds of people that have both in their manner and way of living.
Sentimental is defined as, “marked/governed by feeling, sensibility or the emotional idealism; resulting from feeling rather than the reason or thought.” Whereas emotional is defined as, “relating to emotion; dominated by or prone to ones emotion; appealing to/arousing emotion; markedly aroused or agitated in feeling or sensibilities.” That being said, I wish people would clearly identify themselves with one or even both if they must. Why does this matter or why am I even writing about this you may ask? Well I’ve come across various situations throughout my life that have people provoking or causing drama. Make no mistake, being sentimental/emotional doesn’t mean or give reason to why you’re dramatic nor does it validate your drama like tendencies in the occurrences or situations. When you say, “don’t be so dramatic” or “don’t bring drama into your life” a possible implication that the emotional and sentimental turbulence or provocation is of you’re own doing and is outside your control. The fact is being sentimental and/or emotional doesn't tie in or go hand in hand with the word "drama."
Have I lost you yet or confused you, if so just bear with me...Allow me to give you a prime example. Let’s say that person “A” is an emotional person. How are they emotional? Well that’s easily explained by the fact that they are dominated by their emotions. They are the the text book of emotional by crying at a sappy movie, a card that they’ve read that states appreciation, love, and solid context of familial bonds/relationships. This same person “a” also gets easily agitated when someone doesn’t carry their weight in the workplace, witnesses people being purposely rude to others, or perhaps when someone is being mistreated...HOW person “A” reacts in a particular situation determines whether or not they are a dramatically emotional person. The scenario is this: Person “A” is asked to attend a friend’s relatives funeral; without even knowing the person who has passed, their emotional domination of their friend takes over. They attend the funeral with their friend and are even crying/tearing up at the funeral alongside their friend. Their emotions have been aroused during this event and occurrence; perhaps even start wondering about their own loved ones and how reactions will be if it was their family member’s funeral. Person “A” begins to cry even more in the funeral and fiercely hug their friend...this is NOT drama.
NOW, let’s take this same scenario into another scene but with a person who loves to create drama and uses their emotions to do it; we shall call this person “B”. Person “B” is now attending the funeral and is sympathetic and is trying to console their friend. They don’t necessarily tear up or get emotional during the funeral like Person “A” did, no their reaction is after the funeral and during the gathering after. As Person “B” sits among those around their friend, the small group around the friend is consoling and offering words of encouragement, however the prime moment for person "B" has arose. The group asks the friend how they are doing and how they can’t imagine going through the same thing with their loved one. Person “B” responds with “Oh I know, I’m so sorry for you I truly am but I can’t help but think about the time...” then proceeds to deflect the attention from the funeral itself and onto person “B” story and emotional well being. Now person “B” has begun to get misty eyes while telling their story and goes on to elaborate on their emotions from the experience and how it still effects them today, and how the funeral they’ve just attended only brings the wound and emotions they thought they had dealt with, out in the open again. Some individuals in the group begin to now comfort person “B” while others in the group are now agitated or irritated; person “B” is not being considerate of their friend and is lacking in “being there for your friend in the moment of need”. Whether person “B” is conscientious of what they are doing or not, it still points to the fact that they have now created a sense of DRAMA into the mix and they now in turn have drama written on them.
In closing a sentimental person is one who feels the emotions of the event and takes them to heart; an easy interpretation or primary example to take away is like a mother who literally saves all of the drawings of their child from the moment they pick up a color to the time they have their last art class in college. Or perhaps a father whose always on the road traveling for work, but keeps in his briefcase/suitcase drawings from his child/children as there is always a new one; he also in turn keeps a photo of his wife and kids in his wallet. The emotional person is a “softie” and gets mushy when it comes to romantic movies, or perhaps is always wanting/rooting for the happy ending. Now it’s rare but it’s not unheard of to be an emotionally sentimental person-if that’s you then you are truly special and value those you come into contact. I think I’ve only come across four individuals like that in my entire life and my goodness what an effect they had, still have on those around them. But whatever you do, be who you are but leave try your hardest to leave the drama out of it or if you are dramatic then learn to keep it in your head...
So after reading all this, which are you?
A Distinct Woman
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